Are you defeated by love?

Oct 17

Sometimes you feel that love has defeated you or love has cheated you. That will remain true until you allow yourself to move on.

To enable yourself to move on you must focus on three things.
Forgiveness, Gratitude and New Love.

Forgiveness: After a love has failed your only way to begin your journey to new love is to practice forgiveness. Firstly you must forgive the person or people who you believe have wronged you. Then you must look to yourself, what did you do that you are blaming yourself for? Are you accusing yourself of making stupid decisions or cowardice? Any situation that comes up in your mind regularly which causes you mental pain or anguish is an experience you need to apply forgiveness to. Forgive yourself for these things and ready yourself for the next stage.

Gratitude: Once you have forgiven yourself and others you will then be in a place where you can practice gratitude. It is your duty to look at the areas where you forgave and see what lessons you have learned. You can then be look to what you are grateful for in that situation. For example, if you were dominated by a previous partner you may choose to apply gratitude to the situation for learning how to recognise a dominating person and thus being able to avoid a similar situation. It is important to understand that forgiveness and gratitude never condone another’s actions.

Once you have applied forgiveness and gratitude you are ready to move on.

New Love: You can now focus on finding new love. Create rituals that mean you look for new love every day, make an alter, perform love spells and visualise meeting your love. Doing all these things and focussing on performing loving actions in every aspect of you life will create the space of new love to come into you life and nurture you.

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Soul Gazing Magick

Sep 02

The eyes are the gateway to the soul.  So if you want to connect with another’s soul what more beautiful thing can you do than sit and gaze into each others eyes?

To make a soul connection, set up an area so that it will be comfortable for you and a partner (if you are on your own you can connect with yourself by using a mirror to gaze into your own soul).  Ideas for this space can be visions or chairs, an open fire, some incense and spiritual music.
Start with a caress, a hug or other gentle connection.  Look at the other person’s face and slowly take in every detail. Catch each others eyes but do not gaze immediately.  Play a game of glances until you naturally connect.  Once engaged, stay connected through a loving gaze, whilst letting go of your thoughts and keeping your mind clear.

You can either maintain this as long as is comfortable or keep breaking the gaze and re-engaging in a dance of your soul connection.

I hope you enjoy this game.

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Becoming More Attractive

Aug 13

One facet of the puzzle that is “Finding Love” is how attractive you are.

Being attractive is not easy to define, as you may have already gleaned from the quote Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. So how can you make yourself more attractive? This blog will give you three things to focus on. Your external appearance is the first aspect, your internal glow and your connection to the divine or universal energy.

While it is not always accurate to Judge a book by its cover you can tell the state of someone’s mind by the way they dress and how much care they take of their bodies and appearance. What can you do to create an attractive appearance?

  • Make your clothes congruent with your personality, for instance find out what your natural colours are?
  • If you wear make up, is it a mask or does it just enhance your looks? Whatever mask you may wear drop it, or them, as often as you can.
  • And always be confident in everything you do, stand tall, use appropriate eye contact, project your voice.
  • If you can stand naked in front of a mirror and look at yourself without being critical you are on your way to achieving this.

Your inner glow enhances your outward appearance. Your inner glow comes from your self-awareness and spirit.

  • The more you are at peace with yourself the brighter your glow.
  • The more you are grateful the more you will glow.
  • The more you practice unconditional love, the brighter you glow.
  • If people spontaneously come up to you and begin conversations and people you know share themselves and come to you for help then you are on your way to achieving this

To feed your inner glow you need to connect to the universal power that you believe in.

  • Pray, meditate or cast spells regularly to connect with the Magick.
  • See the Magick in everyday situations and look for the lesson in all situations.
  • Join with others of a similar mind and share the Magick.
  • If you do not need guided mediations, can connect with the divine when you choose and see the beauty and the lesson in every experience, you are on your way to achieving this.

The Inner Glow is what attracts people if you are hiding it through your appearance or fear of looking stupid then you will not come across to others as attractive. If you do not connect to the divine then you Glow will be dim not bright. If you don not love yourself then your glow will be dim and not bright.

Practice all three and you will attract bright souls into your life and your Magick will support you in all things.

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A Spell for Abundance in Your Life

Jul 21

Do you just give, give, give, give? Is it draining? You bet it is!

It’s time to look at what you want to receive in a relationship. The following is a spell to attract more abundance into your life and more love.

The spells themes are:

  • Color = Green
  • Moon Phase = Waxing
  • Magick Invocation = Visualisation, Emotion and Belief

So let’s get going :D

During the two weeks approaching a Full Moon preferably on a Sunday (The Sun is a symbol of great power and as you know the sun contributes to a great harvest). Take three green candles, a deep rich green that makes you think of lush plants that are flourishing. Place them in a triangle one close to you and two further away. Triangles are potent magical symbols that are sometimes forgotten but they represent some powerful trinities such as Mind/Body/Spirit and Crone/Mother/Maiden. By pointing the triangle towards you you are indicating that you wish to evoke Mother Earth and that you want to draw abundance towards you.

Use some incense such as Dragon’s blood to create a great atmosphere and put you in the mood for magic. Find some music that makes you feel abundance, there’s plenty out there, you could even get some subliminal music that promotes abundance or some chanting designed to help things flow to you.

Sit facing the candles, relax with three deep breaths, focus on the area in centre of the candles and start to imagine receiving money, love, or friendships or all of them, whatever you want to attract. Use your senses and imagination to ensure you feel the emotion of the abundance you seek. And when you are connected to that feeling start to bring a feeling of gratitude into you whole body and when you feel at a peak with that throw your arms in the air and shout “Thank You!”.

This way of building the magical energy and then throwing gratitude outwards can be incorporated with any God/Goddess you wish to invoke help from and can be repeated each month to keep the invocation alive. Repeating it will also mean that it gets more powerful each time.

If like me you are into White Magick then this is a great book to attract more abundance into your life.

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Why Feminine and Masculine are Both Important in Love Spells

Jul 12

It’s no coincidence that the symbol that represents all things, Yin and Yang is perfectly balanced and even more importantly there is aYin and Yang black dot in the white area and a white dot in the black area. The black and White areas represent the masculine an feminine in harmony and even more importantly that there is masculine in the feminine and vice versa.

This shows the importance of the interconnectedness of the masculine and feminine energy, they are in some way opposites but are ultimately complementary.

It is important to note though that masculine energy isn’t the sole preserve of men and the feminine is not the sole preserve of women.

They are energies that once recognised as such can be harnessed and used at will in appropriate situations. Both have shadow sides too, the masculine shadow side is dominating and violent and the female shadow side is a victim and sometimes vicious. The shadow sides must be recognised as they arise and put aside through conscious acknowledgement of their appearance. The shadow sides often appear in response to another who lives in the shadow side of the opposite energy, which is where domestic violence lives in relationships.
Masks are the other negative side of the energies and exist where people feel the have to live in the energy that is not at their core to get their needs met or to survive. This occurs in relationships, for example, where a man does not live in his masculine energy and the woman is forced to assume a masculine mask to keep the family functioning.

On a more positive note though! When you get a couple, one who has a masculine core and the other with a feminine core, and they both live through the positive traits of that energy then that is where you have a wonderful relationship.

To help you recognise your core energy consider the following definitions of masculine and feminine energy.
For Yin and Yang masculine and feminine energies are described as:

  • The Yang energy is masculine in nature and is described as light, dry, directed, focused, logical, and action oriented.
  • Yin energy is feminine and described as dark, moist, diffuse, vague, intuitive, and receptive.

Or from a blog I found, this is another definition:
Male energy is directed, focused, goal-oriented, productive, and outward-thrusting or positive-charged (as in a magnet). It corresponds with linear, left-brained thinking, and with doing. Its positive pole is exertion and penetration; its negative pole is intrusion. Female energy is creative, process-oriented, unstructured, and inward-drawing or negative-charged. It corresponds with circular, right-brained thinking, and with being. Its positive pole is expansion and generation; its negative pole is chaotic destruction. Female energy conditions the environment, whereas male energy structures it.

Whatever you do it is important to understand yourself and part of who you are is how you live in your energies masculine/feminine and positive/negative. Also, try and determine if you are wearing masks to compensate for someone else.

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Feeling the Love

Jun 27

Feelings are very important in succeeding with Love Spells.  The way you feel when you cast a spell is what is amplified into the magickal energy and ultimately what you will receive more of.

It is therefore very important to put yourself in the mood. And if you are continually putting yourself in the mood for love then you will be in the perfect place for creating live spells.

There are various ways to get yourself into a loving space but it is easier if you combine several. Your emotions come from your reactions to external influences that are picked up by your senses. So, pictures will stimulate your visual sense, music or relaxing sounds (waves or singing bowls or similar) for your auditory sense, incense for your sense of smell, etc.

If you don’t know what your love stimulations are then think back to times when you have felt love or experiment with different sounds, smells, etc. looking out for what puts you in mind of love.

For me, I use images of loved ones, nature and lots of red, plus I burn rose incense and listen to flowing piano music. That and other sense tingling things puts me in the mood for love magick.

Create a regular ritual using all your sensory love tools and love in your life will multiply as you become tuned into your heart.

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A Love Spell to Find a Friend

Jun 13

Sometimes the love that is desired is the love of a good friend, someone who will listen to you without prejudice, laugh with you and support you through good times and bad. That someone may not be your intended partner but a best friend. If you don’t have such a person in your life then the following spell can help attract them.

What you’ll need:

  • A yellow candle, an orange candle and a brown candle.
  • A piece of paper.
  • A pen.
  • A lighter or matches.
  • A fireproof container.
  • Anything else you may need to create the right atmosphere.

Set yourself up where you won’t be disturbed. Put on some music that puts you in the mood for Magick. Place the candles on the surface you have chosen: brown on the left, orange in the middle and yellow on the right.

Place the paper, lighter, pen and fireproof container in front of you.

Step 1 Light the candles, first the brown, then orange then yellow.

Step 2 Write a description or list, on the piece of paper using the pen, of the sort of person you want to meet (avoid describing them physically as that reduces who the universe can send through, e.g. Don’t ask for a friend with brown hair but you could ask for someone who loves sport, if that’s something you want to share).

Step 3 Recite the spell below whilst lighting the paper, then drop the burning paper in the fireproof container and let it burn through.

Send me a friend, a friend for me.
Bring me the joy that I need.
By lighting this list.
I send out my request.
For a best friend that’s perfect for me.

And finally you can enhance this spell by burning incense with the description/list and by staying open to meeting this fabulous friend and going places that you want to go to with your friend and imagining what fun it’ll be when there’s the two of you there.

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Creativity is Love’s Soulmate

Jun 11

If you think that love is fine on its own then think again. Love needs to be fueled and a great fuel is creativity. Think about a couple you know who are not that happy together any more, or are less happy than they were. How much creativity is there in those relationships?

At first the creativity is easy. You have just met and you are discovering each other and the things that make you both tick. You want to please the other person so you come up with ideas all the time. Flowers, chocolates, trips to somewhere special, their favorite film on a special edition DVD . . . but as you become more familiar and know that you will stay together the creative love tends to peter out, the creativity reduces.

To bring magick back into a relationship takes creativity and love. you must rediscover what your partner loves (other than you!), do they have any interests that you have forgotten about? Could you whisk them away to a place that is magick for you both? Somewhere that holds wonderful memories. This in itself is magick, doing something selflessly for love and love along. Do not have any preconceived ideas of how this will work out, trust the universe to deliver on your honest and open intention to generate love.

And remember love is not just a one off it is for life. Even if you cannot afford to do a grand gesture like take your loved one away, think of all the wonderful things you can do . . . Magic Moments. Imagine how they will feel, if while they are out, you do the chore they hate the most, with no thought of what you might get in return. Imagine the love you can generate by offering a selfless massage with no thought but love and service.

Do listen to your heart, stay still and tune in, ideas will come, don’t dismiss them but think how you can make them happen. Do listen to your partner what do they love, what do they dream of? Do everything without thought of reward, only to generate love creatively.

Namaste

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Love is the Magick

May 23

Sometimes when you are seeking something, you find that you had it all the time and you were just unaware or had forgotten. That is often the way with love.
The other day I was driving over a narrow bridge with the other direction having right of way. I was about half way across when a car appeared and drove onto the bridge with the driver waving at me to go back. I went into anger, stalled car when reversing and swore even with my daughter in the car. This reaction is rare for me I usually take most things in my stride.
This anger carried on at home and I had to take some down time to try and shift my mood. It took a while but as soon as I asked the question “What is the lesson I am to learn?” The answer came back “Love”. It was then clear that all I needed to do was think about the other driver with love. I therefore loved his cheekiness, his confidence and his desire to impress his friends. I thought, with love, about how he could make a great leader given the love and support that a mentor could provide.
It was then that I realised that I could now think about the incident without anger, only with love.
Where in your life could you ask “What is the lesson I am to learn?”, you may find that “Love” is often the answer.

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Love and the Ego

May 08

One thing that can limit the success of your Love Spells is your Ego.
A person who has an over-inflated opinion of themself and what they “deserve” is a more common occurrence nowadays than it used to be. The feeling that you are owed something, especially love, creates a desperation inside that translates into whatever you do and is obvious to those around you. In terms of love this will be one of the things that is blocking you from finding your soul mate. You will be putting out a desperate call for a specific person or type of person and it will be what you want and not what you need to continue your soul journey.

The first step, to overcome this state, is to acknowledge it and let go of the desperation that you feel when you think about love. You must also ensure that you let go of your currently held belief regarding what you deserve. This can be done through direct observation of yourself and how you feel and think when you are contemplating who you want to meet and fall in love with. Each time you catch yourself thinking about love, in a way that is selfish or needy, catch yourself and let go of the feeling. Replace this with a thought of gratitude for the love that you have from yourself and from others.

Love is much easier where the ego is not involved or is not the primary driver of you desire. If you are struggling to release yourself from your ego I suggest you take a look at Sonia Choquette’s book Soul Lessons and Soul Purpose there are some wonderful but simple exercises that will connect you to the magick and align you with your Soul Purpose. There is nothing more attractive than someone who is living in line with their Soul Purpose ;)

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